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Painful: Ne-Yo dumps Wife after she agreed to tie her Tubes permanently!

Monyetta Shaw
Monyetta Shaw is the mother of singer Ne-Yo‘s first two children. Ne-Yo broke up with her when they were engaged, via the phone. He is now married to Crystal Renay with a newborn baby.

She has now opened up to NY Post about it again, as part of promotion for her new book –Bigger Than Me – after talking about it previously on a reality show she did with other entertainers’ exes – Atlanta Exes – including Kevin Hart and Usher‘s ex-wives.

When Ne-Yo got married recently, their children did not attend the wedding, and Monyetta said it was because of school obligations. However, she has now opened up on her TRUE feelings – that it hurts to see them parade their love on social media, and how is the new wife sure he won’t do the same to her?

Here are excerpts:

The Beautiful Beginnings
We first met in 2009 at a Jamie Foxx concert in Louisiana. He asked me out several times before I said yes — and then I fell for him fast. He had such a good heart, and that’s what attracted me to him.

The next year, I found out I was pregnant. It wasn’t a complete surprise, as we weren’t using protection, and we knew instantly that this child was a gift from God.

After starting a family, I fell more in love than ever. In 2010, during a weekend in the Dominican Republic for [rapper] Fabolous’ birthday, Ne-Yo asked me to marry him. We were in a suite, and he told everybody to be quiet. He pulled my hand, dropped down to one knee, and I immediately started crying. He incorporated the lyrics from his song “Make Me Better” and pulled out a 10-carat diamond ring.

In 2011, I found out I was pregnant with Mason.

The Sterilization Happened Right After the Birth of their Second Child
(After the birth)…the doctor performed the sterilization procedure. I had no regrets.

On Oct. 9, 2011, I delivered a healthy baby boy, my second child, Mason, and I finally felt my family was complete. So before the doctors finished up in the delivery room, I told them: “I want you to burn my fallopian tubes.”

My fiancé, Shaffer Chimere Smith (better known as R&B artist Ne-Yo), was right by my side, holding my hand the entire time. The doctor must have asked us eight times if this was what we wanted. Each time, we both replied yes.

Sterilization was something Ne-Yo and I discussed thoroughly in the months leading up to the baby’s delivery. We had a daughter, Madilyn, in 2010, and two children seemed like more than enough for the both of us. Ne-Yo also agreed to undergo a vasectomy to show our mutual commitment to the relationship.

I was so busy caring for two young children, I just assumed Ne-Yo had followed through and had gotten the vasectomy. I trusted him so much that it never even crossed my mind that he hadn’t gone through with it.

The Break-Up
But then, in June 2013 — just two months before our August wedding — Ne-Yo called.

“I don’t want to be monogamous anymore,” he told me — in other words, he wanted to break up. A week later, we had a deep conversation face to face. I was so hurt and distraught; my parents have been together for 44 years, and I always assumed our relationship would last for the rest of our lives. The thought of him and my kids not living under the same roof was devastating.

A week after our split, Ne-Yo posted the news on Instagram. It wasn’t long until VH1 producers called and asked me to join the reality show “Atlanta Exes,” which followed me along with other ex-wives of Hollywood stars, such as Tameka [Foster], Usher’s ex.

Then, in 2014, when Ne-Yo released his music video for “Money Can’t Buy,” I found out that he was dating the video’s vixen, Crystal Renay, known for posting racy photos on Instagram.Monyetta Shaw is the mother of singer Ne-Yo‘s first two children. Ne-Yo broke up with her when they were engaged, via the phone. He is now married to Crystal Renay with a newborn baby.

She has now opened up to NY Post about it again, as part of promotion for her new book –Bigger Than Me – after talking about it previously on a reality show she did with other entertainers’ exes – Atlanta Exes – including Kevin Hart and Usher‘s ex-wives.

When Ne-Yo got married recently, their children did not attend the wedding, and Monyetta said it was because of school obligations. However, she has now opened up on her TRUE feelings – that it hurts to see them parade their love on social media, and how is the new wife sure he won’t do the same to her?

Crystal Renay
On Finding out about the New Woman
My world came crashing down all over again: I had tried to understand that he didn’t want to be monogamous, but then he went and found a different woman whom he was ready to be monogamous with?

It hurts to see them parade their love on social media. They recently married, on Feb. 20, and Crystal gave birth to their first son. She seems like a nice girl, but I would be worried if I were she. How does she know that he’s not going to do the same thing to her that he did to me?

How She Feels about Her Life-Changing Decision Now & the Future
Adding to the pain is knowing that if I find another man to love, I may not be able to start a family with him. I’m too scared to go to a doctor to find out if there’s anything they can do about it. Because I do want to get married someday, and if my future husband does not have kids, I will want to have his children.

Now I look back and wonder what I was thinking. I love hard, and I made so many permanent decisions based on what I thought a man wanted from me, not what I wanted for myself. When my daughter comes of age, I will tell her: “Your body is your temple. Don’t do anything to it you don’t want to regret.”

Today, I’m finally at peace. I took awhile to get here, and I don’t know if I’ll ever be exactly where I want to be, but I make the choice each day to be happy, not just for me, but for my two kids. That’s where the title of my book comes from — this is all bigger than me.

Would you have your tube locked permanently, if your husband asked you to?

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