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ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS


Domestic violence in Nigeria is a problem in many parts of Africa. There is a deep cultural belief in Nigeria that it is socially acceptable to hit a woman to discipline her. Domestic violence takes many forms including physical, sexual, emotional, and mental. Traditionally, domestic violence is committed against females. Common forms of violence against women  in Nigeria are rape, acid attacks, molestation, wife beating, and corporal punishment.

   Recently in Ogun state;

 A man reportedly killed his wife for attending  a party he warned her not to attend Keji Osunjirin has been arrested in Abeokuta, Ogun State. For allegedly setting his wife, Fatimo, ablaze after pouring the petrol he brought home in a jerry can on her. She later died from her burns. Neighbours claim Keji attacked his wife after she refused his instructions not to attend a family party. He reportedly rushed his dying wife  to the hospital after realising the havoc he caused. He however explained that his action was not deliberate. He reportedly narrated that he mistakenly threw the petrol can on the wife after it caught fire in his own hands.

Unfortunately many women are in abusive relationships where they ultimately become victims of domestic violence. The only redemption for victims of abusive relationships is to get out or stay out of these relationships. If your spouse/ fiance/ boyfriend gets jealous constantly, threatens violence, has a rigid gender role i.e he expects you to obey and serve him always. If he abuses you verbally i.e he calls you ugly, says cruel things and uses your past against you.  If he has a past of battering and blames it on the victims or situations, he beats, kicks and slaps you.
The Abuser isolates you from your family and friends, blames others for his mistakes, gets angry easily, he is controlling during sex and forces or manipulates you to engage in some sex acts. The idea of rape excites him and he has unrealistic expectations from you.
  All these are warning signs and the best thing to do is to get out of these relationships as soon as possible for your safety and that of your children as the case may be. 
NB:  A woman can also abuse a man in rare cases where the man claims to love the woman and intends to manage the situation no matter the abuse or cases where the woman's family is influential and many other cases. If you are a victim the same way out above also applies to you.

Sometimes, you may not be able to get out of abusive relationships on your own, there are help centers and security agencies where you can sought help from.
Click this link for more info:
 http://domesticviolence.com.ng/help-for-domestic-violence/
These are also some dedicated helplines for child abuse (08085753932, 08102678442) and domestic violence for Lagos state residents (08057542266, 08102678443).

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