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Where is he, who is fair?

I would not ask anyone not to be religious, but I’ll plead you not be religious in answering this question- I know you would answer that God is fair(if you believe He is though)-, as this may becloud your sense of fairness in judgment as well. This generation seeks average 80% answers via the internet; more particularly from the search engine giant Google. So being a part of this generation I did that search before writing this.
Fairness and Justice is subjective and perceptual. Fairness is the impartial and just treatment or behavior without favouritism or discrimination. Justice is just behaviour or treatment according to English dictionary. Being fair is all the above in short. We can all be fair, even wicked souls have their moment (the devil non-inclusive), but can we be fair at all times?
Were we thought to be fair while growing up? Was fairness and justice meant to be a topic integrated in our academic system? I do have no memory of fairness being meted out by my teachers in primary school and I am being fair to them, I have lots of memory of unfairness though. Now, there is this particular event that remains fresh. I am admit I am a fair dancer- I know someone is laughing at my “fair dancer” but Toyin please be fair #wink- and I had always love to appear on the TV doing same. My school was meant to perform traditional dance and drama on air at the state television and all the dancers were to come with local traditional wrapper called “Aso Ofi” (it is a Yoruba traditional attire). I was glad when I was choosing and I did my best to master the dance steps (You know when a kid tries to impress). On the day the bus came to pick us to the Television station, I was dropped from the dance group and my mum’s ofi that I brought was taken from me by the teacher and handed to another student who was adjudged a better dancer but had no traditional attire! Now to me that is unfair and I never forgot that incident, but to my teacher, she felt it was fair as long as the school does well. This was not a competition and no medals were won at the station, so why the unfairness?
Now, that incident is something that we laugh over in my house but as a kid I did see the world has been unfair because the teacher felt no guilt! Now I did not conclude that the teacher is a wicked soul, she at a time asked that I be included in a rag race knowing fully well that I dint make it through the qualification race, she believed that I gave it my best so I deserve to have a go at the race in-front of our parents-I didn’t win the race though.
It is always my opinion that when someone wrongs you, do not forget the good things he has done to you, that is how to be fair. I belong to a chat group, that I consider my membership sometime unimportant. I fell in that group by virtue of an event commonly shared by all members. During the said event, we all connected to each other in varying degrees and to some there was little or no connection. The group for me wasn’t fairly administered, but putting myself in the administrators’ shoes would I have been fair to those I had little or no connection with? It was hard to decide to open a door to a house to which you had no relationship with the occupant, even though you live on the same street. My opinion of unfairness was formed on the fact that experiences/events/opinion shared were not inconsequential to me as I had no real connection to the people. The admins would announce the birthdays of people to whom they had a connection but they would ignore that of those they have little or no connection (we are connected by event, here I am referring to relationship which is only built by interaction and mutual acceptance).
Like I said I doubt if I would have done a better job than the admins, I probably wouldn’t have created the group in the first place, but I still consider it unfair that some member’s birthday were ignored! You shouldn’t have included them if you cannot be fair to all.
I have worked for and with several people-I started working early- and I still have this comparative table-sub consciously- where I grade my employers. Some for me are fair, some fairer and some kinda have their own definition of being fair which I disagree with. I have learnt however that no principal/boss can be fair at all times, and it is useless to expect them to be, however, they do need to be fair nonetheless.
The weather cannot be fair at all times, but you should cherish the good weather. I would refrain from talking about the unfairness and injustice that pervades the Nigeria entity, it would be a loong (with a double “O”) story.
Now here is my conclusion, no one can be fair at all times, fairness is defined by each person in different ways, and people expect different things from justice. Our expectations remain not completely satisfied and at times not all.
Be fair as best you can, do not expect everyone to be fair, that way you can see the fairness in life, life gave you a premonition at birth, do not expect everyone to be fair at all times – it is unfair that you had to cry at birth, live could have allowed to choose between a laugh or a cry.
1.     Is it fair that the President of the Republic of Nigeria, after condemning a former President of the Nation for his failure to resign from his position when he was sick, continue to remain in office in the same circumstance as the former?
2.     Is it fair that Donald Trump won the race to the Oval office?
3.     Is it fair that all of the above should be your business (who this one epp)?
4.     Is it fair to judge yourself as average?
5.     Is nature fair to all indeed?

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